But in my later years I’ve realized that every successful relationship has this point at their core: If you take out the romantic connection, those two people would still hang out like nothing had changed. Well, besides all the dirty, filthy fucking. You can’t make a relationship work unless you actually enjoy each other’s non-sex company. And that thing people get in their heads, that friendship and relationships are opposite things, it’s hard to explain but it’s a different flavor of friendship, one where sex can break out at any time. Maybe we need a new word for it (and something less clinical sounding than “compatibility”). But no matter what you call it, that connection is the core of the relationship.